Once a couple decides that they want to marry, there are quite a few changes that will begin to take place. In class we talked about the differences of cohabitation and marriage. Growing up in an LDS community, I don't have a lot of experience with those that cohabit. There are a few types of cohabitation, 1. Precursor to Marriage- this would mean that the couple are just "testing the waters" to see if marriage is something that could even work out for them. Generally the plan is to eventually marry if living together works well. 2. CoResidential Daters- The thought process here, is that it would be nice to share somethings. They don't necessarily want to be married but there are somethings that they don't need to have two of. 3. Trial Cohabitor- Intend to marry someone someday, not necessarily the current partner, but someone eventually. 4. Alternative to marriage- they don't want to get married, but they don't really know what else to do so they move in together. There isn't really any intention of marrying.
The way you start out dating, is usually how you will continue. How you date is how you mate. If you are casual and things are split half and half like in cohabitation, when you finally do get to the point that you want to marry, it will be a lot more difficult because you are already living separate parallel lives.
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