Preparing for Marriage

This week we talked a lot about dating and preparing to take the step of getting married. I really enjoyed this weeks lessons because this is the stage that I am in currently. I really appreciated the "Relationship Attachment Model", In this model we learned that you should first get to know someone. You shouldn't trust anyone more then you know them. You shouldn't rely on anyone more then you trust them, you should not commit to anyone more then you rely on them and you should not be physical with anyone more then you are committed to them. We talked about how when this scale is out of balance it really affects the attachment of the couple and makes it more difficult for things to last. I went on a couple of dates after we discussed this and I really tried to make a conscience effort to keep things in the proper order. I think this probably happens everywhere, but especially at BYU-Idaho I notice that as students we often do things out of order. A couple will kiss, and then decide that they probably should start dating because they can't really just be friends after kissing. This happens more often then you'd think, and it makes total sense why it doesn't generally end up lasting.